Yesterday and today, I joined social media marketers from around the Baltimore area and the country at Social Fresh Baltimore. I’m posting this blog post halfway through the second day, so if the afternoon talks are left out, my apologies–please help me out and comment with your afternoon takeaways.

Here’s the top five things that stood out for me from this event:

1. Measure the impact of mobile marketing before you dive in. As both @seo_girl and@jeannehopkins spoke to for web, and @meladorri spoke to for email, check your web and email program’s analytics to see which platforms and devices people are using to consume your content. If a lot of your traffic comes from mobile devices–and more importantly, as @seo_girl pointed out, if your mobile bounce rate is high–you’re probably missing opportunities for mobile marketing, or doing something wrong.

2. QR codes can be cool, but they can also be wasteful and ridiculous. Whatever you do, provide multiple options for access. Yes, more and more people are using QR code scanners, but that doesn’t mean you should plaster QR codes everywhere. As @thetimhaydencovered, first, think about how people are actually using their phones–do you really think people are going to be able to scan a QR code from a billboard? To get around this, when possible, provide a link, an SMS option, and a QR code so people can access your content in the way that’s best for them. For a laugh on this count, check out @unmarketing’s video ranting(thanks to @cc_chapman for providing).

3. Don’t forget SMS. According to @justinpgh, with emails, you’re lucky to get a 20-30% open rate. With text messages, 90% of people read the message in the first 15 minutes. I’d love to see the data on this first hand, but basically, for urgent, last minute, and real time marketing, SMS marketing can’t be beat.

4. Earn attention, don’t interrupt. A recurring theme throughout the event is one we harp on all the time @rightsource: don’t interrupt people to get attention, find out where they’re already paying attention and go to them there. In her lunchtime keynote, @maggiefox pointed out new advertising models from media companies such as Digg and StumbleUpon that insert content into users’ organic streams (Reddit and Twitter do this too). That makes advertising content, rather than products, essential for success–but the opportunities to create lasting relationships and grow an audience of fans who love your brand are huge. (Thanks @noordnrycherry for suggesting this point!)

5. Use psychology in your marketing. Even though he had the hard task of waking us up with the first talk of Day 2, @derekhalpern incorporated some really interesting psychological concepts into his talk. I loved his idea of thinking about your customers and potential customers as groups united against a common enemy. Derek used Apple as an example. They didn’t make Mac and PC users feel…snarkiness…toward each other with their “I’m a Mac, I’m a PC” commercials. They simply took the innate human tendency to unite in groups against a common enemy and capitalized on it. Brilliant. How can everyone, Derek asked, split our customers and potential customers into group? Then, how can we play those groups against a common enemy in a way that benefits our businesses?

If you’d like a more comprehensive review, check out my open for editing Google notes here.They’ve been a hit–and thanks to @jasonkeath for the free Social Fresh T-shirt!

Last, if you attended, what did you think was a huge takeaway? Which afternoon sessions did it really suck that I left out? If you weren’t there, do you agree with the above points? Let’s talk in the comments.

This post originally appeared on the Marketing Trenches Blog. By Tracy Gold

This is NOT SocialJune 2nd was my 40th birthday. I had hundreds of people wish me Happy Birthday on Facebook. Some sent me a message instead of posting on my Facebook wall. This post is about one message in particular. I had to educate them on social networking, I hope they “got it”.

I’m protecting the guy’s identity here because I’m not doing this to get back at him.  I’m posting this as a “What Not To Do” so people can learn from it.

My response to the message was:

Bryan, I take it you don’t know much about me.

I liked his honest response:

Thanks Michael for your comment. I know nothing about you whatsoever please enlighten me for your products and tips. I promote Chris Farrell to help our Facebook friends learn to get started on the Internet, we have a great group of top Internet Marketers who give their help, tips and coments and trust you will join them.

The thing is, he was trying to justify what he did and that  garnered this response:

Well, just look at my profile. You would know I AM an internet marketer. I was even Editor in Chief of Internet Marketer Magazine http://InternetMarketerMagazine.com/ Also, newbie marketer mistake #1, CLOAK YOUR AFFILIATE LINKS. If you wanted to tell me about Chris’s program as a friend, you wouldn’t have given me a link like that.

Instead, it looks like you were using my Birthday as a way to make a quick buck. Not a very good impression at all.

This IS Social Media, and this IS our first interaction. You came in telling me about something that would make you money.

You should watch this short video Beginning to End. It has excellent content and will help you immensely:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eK_UOj7Gf1Y

That video I made 3 years ago and generally show it to people like this. Hopefully they “get it” but some don’t understand that what is portrayed in the video is the WRONG way to do things. It’s entitled “How NOT to be Social”. I also Bolded the part I hope he took note of.

Nope, he still doesn't get itHe responded again but still doesn’t get it.  The thing is, if he would have spent 30 seconds on my profile, he would have noticed I am not “starting out on the Internet”.  I put up my first webpage in 1994 and have been an internet marketer since 2005 or 2006.

Here is my response to him.  This response is what sums everything up.  SOCIAL NETWORKING is SOCIAL.

The point is, your first impression was you were using my birthday as a way to make an affiliate sale. If you would have taken 30 seconds to look at my profile, youwould have known I’m not a new internet marketer.

If you were at a social gathering, would you walk up to someone and say: Hi, buy this….?

If someone did it to you, how would you feel? Would you recommend them? Would you introduce them to someone else?

In a social gathering, whether online or offline, you should build a relationship. Then offer to help.

I hope you do that today. The next person you say happy birthday to, just say happy birthday.

He didn’t reply after that.  What are your thoughts on this subject?